tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post650499572161849906..comments2023-05-03T06:48:34.336-04:00Comments on A Little Ink More or Less: The Peer Reclamation ProjectKristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10415844547907252270noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-6391600060161956542019-04-03T16:19:39.617-04:002019-04-03T16:19:39.617-04:00Paul,
It's been a bit, but our correspondence...Paul,<br /><br />It's been a bit, but our correspondence online about technique and Egoscue kept me on the field.<br /><br />Every time I train a new fighter, I refer them to your manual.<br /><br />You may not have as many students in person, but you still have an impact.<br /><br />JohnJohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11869613494256075736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-54974628463687974522019-03-27T16:34:44.820-04:002019-03-27T16:34:44.820-04:00I'm a peer. My husband is a double peer. We ar...I'm a peer. My husband is a double peer. We are drifting away from the SCA for numerous reasons. <br /><br />Firstly, mobility issues. I recently had a third joint replacement surgery. I can no longer get around as easily as I could when I was younger. Camping is now just about impossible.<br /><br />Secondly, politics. Politically, things have changed. Some of our friends have had some unsettling circumstances and will no longer be playing. My husband seems to have been "blackballed" by the fighting and rapier communities. <br /><br />Lastly, and most importantly, we feel unwanted and are no longer having fun. There are members of our own household that no longer speak to us. I feel isolated, even in a group of people. If that's how I'm/we're feeling, why should I/we keep playing?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05357906936994851113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-57518372024763509752019-03-27T01:55:10.901-04:002019-03-27T01:55:10.901-04:00There are four big factors for me. (No, I'm no...There are four big factors for me. (No, I'm not a peer. I WAS married to one.) None have to do with anything bad that the SCA ever did to me directly.<br /><br />One is that is become much more difficult for me to reach events. There was a time when many events were held in Boston itself, and in other nearby communities that could be reached by public transit. That is no longer true, mostly because increasing costs have driven them to distant locations. And I no longer have regular access to a car. That means that getting to the events involves serious planning, and either an expense that is much larger than the cost of attending the event itself or arranging a ride and being at the mercy of somebody else's schedule.<br /><br />Second is that, for me, memories of the SCA are inextricably linked with memories of my late wife. That makes it all rather bittersweet.<br /><br />Third is that I'm reaching an age where physical limits have started to come into play. I can no longer do everything I would like to do. I can't stay out on the dance floor all night, and if I try my joints will regret it the next day. That makes me unhappy.<br /><br />Finally there is one that only applies to a few people: gender transition. It means that I need an entire new wardrobe and I only have a little bit of that so far. I need a new name that I have not yet discovered. And it likely means dealing with a lot of misgendering at first because there are so many people who knew me in my past life.<br /><br />But I miss it sometimes. I had a lot of happy times in the SCA, and I'd like to think that I still have time for a few more happy times before my life runs out.Shirley Márquez Dúlceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801079527301259208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-53922905869080712752019-03-26T21:36:40.692-04:002019-03-26T21:36:40.692-04:00Bridget posted a link to facebook and I wonder now...Bridget posted a link to facebook and I wonder now that 5 years has past has your views changed I know there are still I wonder why I stay and then there are days when I know why I stay Rittmeister DamalesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07489226599792339004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-54352123688703948042019-03-26T19:21:47.328-04:002019-03-26T19:21:47.328-04:00My feelings ... The SCA, for all the fondness I ha...My feelings ... The SCA, for all the fondness I have for it, is extremely consumptive of time and energy. The activity of a single event takes a whole weekend, especially when you factor in preparations like travel, cooking, sewing, training, etc. If you have a family, or a career, that time is valuable. When I was younger as the saying goes, I had all the time in the world. It hasn't been that way for quite some time. Then, on the other side of the equation, there's activities that compete with SCA -- other types of physical and martial training, other arts and pursuits, other relaxations. Among the attractions of those "other activities" is they are often more objectively managed, with less of the social hierarchy stuff that is woven into so much of SCA.<br /><br />There it is, takes too much time, not enough payback vs the alternatives. If there was a way to do 'a little bit" of SCA I might try it again, but I could never invest the time in becoming a full-fledged event goer.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16768844784613476374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-74706881359634179242019-03-26T13:50:07.200-04:002019-03-26T13:50:07.200-04:00Your Grace, you are still celebrated as a teacher ...Your Grace, you are still celebrated as a teacher and Peer, and it is really unfortunate that dedicated students are so thin on the ground. I wonder if we can focus one fight practice a month on instruction, drills, footwork etc. If you were to design a full curriculum of fight training, with access to all the modern tools, like video, power point, etc, what would it look like, how woukd you structure it?filidhe@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02600844257123260411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-18887518082413058942019-02-27T16:14:33.855-05:002019-02-27T16:14:33.855-05:00LoL, 1984, not 1884!
Typos, gotta love them.LoL, 1984, not 1884! <br />Typos, gotta love them.the darkjewelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07889182095909641727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-77896876417014423562019-02-25T08:54:10.716-05:002019-02-25T08:54:10.716-05:00The importance of this cannot be understated. My h...The importance of this cannot be understated. My husband and I took a leave for quite a while. When we came back most were cool about it but a few did give us garbage for being gone for so long. Please when someone comes back, just be nice. Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12019734524258546875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-38159312954677056362019-02-25T06:34:46.486-05:002019-02-25T06:34:46.486-05:00Economy & time.
I was never a peer... Just a f...Economy & time.<br />I was never a peer... Just a fairly well known but invisible person.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10283780019683913054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-75189058957492634722019-02-25T02:03:29.800-05:002019-02-25T02:03:29.800-05:00I agree with this article, I've been in the SC...I agree with this article, I've been in the SCA since 1884, and it's changed so much I don't know anyone anymore. Making friends is hard now, not like it used to be.<br />Tell Master Iefan Sine and Duncan say hello. the darkjewelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07889182095909641727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-37866139047863843032019-02-24T23:21:02.011-05:002019-02-24T23:21:02.011-05:00Also something I don't believe you mentioned, ...Also something I don't believe you mentioned, is just plain old physical aging, there comes a point when the spirit is definitely willing, but the body no longer is able.<br />I have been a member since AS25, elevated Laurel AS32; Pelican some years later, have served as Queen of the West twice, I didn't join the SCA until I was 47 turning 48 you do the math that makes me currently 75 ,arthritis and sports injuries have caught up to me big time. So the spirit is willing but the body can no longer do the long drives to events, set up and tear down for camping etc.... So just one more thing to think about.<br />Catherine LorraineCatherine Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04708869898120628108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-12894816790057361422019-02-24T16:02:10.291-05:002019-02-24T16:02:10.291-05:00The thing that is pushing me away is that people s...The thing that is pushing me away is that people stopped listening to what I have to say. I get all kinds of respect for being a great teacher, but so few people want to be taught. While I was still fighting and winning crowns, more people paid attention. Once I stopped entering crowns, that started going away; out of sight, out of mind. <br /><br />I keep reducing expectations, in an attempt to battle my own frustration. I've still got enough going to keep me involved, and I hope that continues to be the case. We'll see. <br /><br />Paul of Bellatrix.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00637582861508369584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-34309309582292847392014-04-24T08:30:17.652-04:002014-04-24T08:30:17.652-04:00Solid point Troy. I should add something about wel...Solid point Troy. I should add something about welcoming people back without guilt to the post. Thanks for making me do some more thinking :)Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10415844547907252270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-69572085269008459482014-04-24T00:23:58.516-04:002014-04-24T00:23:58.516-04:00I agree with a lot of what your saying. You also m...I agree with a lot of what your saying. You also might mention that sometimes people just need to take some time off. <br />This club can be so consuming that it literally takes over your life and often the most involved and devoted ones make the best peers. At some point anyone who has been in this club long enough wants or needs to take some "mundane time". We should be understanding and encouraging when someone feels that need to take a step back for awhile. The SCA will still be here when they come back.<br />A barrier to resuming SCA activities is sometimes the conception, whether real or perceived, that they have somehow been remiss in their duties and have let people down. Sometimes people may leave the club thinking that are done for good and leave hard feelings behind. <br />These are all things that keep people from resuming when they are otherwise ready. It may help when they do come around to just let them know that you are glad to see them and not say things that may add to any guilt or anxiety about not being around.<br />Sorry to leave such a long comment it's just that this is something I have considered quite a lot over the years as I have seen so many people come and go. Troy Tallenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10906066585744504254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30760818.post-76450578220449592332014-04-23T18:43:43.869-04:002014-04-23T18:43:43.869-04:00Well SaidWell SaidAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14370686744201035418noreply@blogger.com